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“Kids, Would You Please Start Fighting?”
In this New York Times opinion piece, columnist Adam Grant, makes the case that kids can benefit from learning to argue and that, by inhibiting their disagreements, we might just be squelching the development of creative problem solving. Something to keep in mind, next time the kids start bickering. It might drive you crazy but…
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Outsmarting Our Primitive Responses to Fear
This New York Times article, “Outsmarting our Primitive Responses to Fear”, provides an outline of our evolved fear response, often referred to as “fight or flight”. Take a look for ideas on how to help your response match the stimulus and get yourself out of the red zone when you don’t need to be there.
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Can your marriage be helped by these ‘Love Hacks’?
Check out this New York Times article called “Try These ‘Love Hacks’ to Fix Your Marriage.” After studying thousands of couples, psychologist Eli Finkel has an explanation for the decline in people’s satisfaction with their marriages over the past four decades. Key takeaways include:
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Can Trauma Help You Grow?
In this New Yorker article, the author describes the impact of devastating trauma to his development and worldview. Despite the fact that one would never wish trauma on anyone, studies demonstrate a phenomenon referred to as “post-traumatic growth” in which adverse experiences force a reevaluation that often renders life more meaningful. As clinical psychologists, we…
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How People Learn to Be Resilient
This New Yorker article is called “How People Learn to Become Resilient”. The author lays out the evidence that resilience is not a binary condition i.e. something you have or don’t have. Rather, how you perceive your life events and frame your narrative is a defining factor in resilience. Narrative re-framing is a key element…
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The Dance of Relational Trance
We recommend watching this Tara Brach video called “The Dance of Relational Trance.” In it, Brach talks about what to do when we become emotionally reactive in our relationships. We often go into a trance that creates separation and stops us from connecting with others. What to do when this happens? This talk explores how,…
