From Tara Brach
We recommend this talk by Tara Brach, “The Dance of Relational Trance.” In it, Brach talks about what to do when we become emotionally reactive in our relationships. We often go into a kind of trance that creates separation and stops us from connecting with others.
The talk explores how pausing and deepening our attention can help us reconnect with others and with ourselves.
Reactivity in Relationships
Most people find themselves reacting in ways they did not intend, especially with the people closest to them. Noticing the pause between a trigger and a response is one way to begin changing the pattern. Therapy can offer a space to notice these patterns, understand where they come from, and practice responding differently, on your own or together with a partner.
Related Care and Reading
- Couples Therapy: Support for partners working on communication and connection.
- Adult Therapy: Individual therapy for adults.
- Family Therapy: Support for the family as a whole.
- Is Venting Bad for You?: What the research suggests about coping with frustration.
- Are Negative Emotions Bad?: A Psychology Today perspective on difficult feelings.
