From The New York Times
In a New York Times article, “Try These ‘Love Hacks’ to Fix Your Marriage,” psychologist Eli Finkel draws on his study of thousands of couples to explain why people’s satisfaction with their marriages has declined over the past four decades, and shares practical ideas for strengthening a relationship.
Takeaways From the Article
- Touch. The importance of touch in building trust and affection.
- Fighting well. The do's and don'ts of having a fight, including the strategy of looking at a fight from the outside.
- Small victories. How and why to celebrate small victories.
Every Couple Is Different
Ideas like these tend to work best when they fit the two people using them. If you and your partner would like support with communication, conflict, or closeness, couples therapy offers a space to work on those patterns together. You can also read what to expect in our post on couples therapy.
Related Care and Reading
- Couples Therapy: Support for partners working on communication and connection.
- What to Expect From Couples Therapy, and When to Start: A GQ guide.
- The Dance of Relational Trance: A Tara Brach talk on emotional reactivity in relationships.
- Workshops: Group learning sessions at PPG.
